Courtney Boyer

Courtney Boyer, M.Ed., M.S., is a therapist-turned-relationship coach, writer, and speaker whose work centers on love, desire, and authenticity.

Courtney is the author of Not Tonight Honey and Opened. She has been a guest on Good Night, New York and BBC Radio Live and featured in Glamour, Cosmopolitan, and The Huffington Post.

Drawing on her background in mental health and sex therapy, she brings a unique blend of professional expertise and lived experience to conversations around relationships and identity.

When she isn’t writing or coaching, Courtney can be found chasing joy—traveling, reading, or savoring delicious coffee and deep conversation. She is passionate about helping others break free from shame, reclaim their bodies and voices, and create relationships rooted in honesty and autonomy.

Courtney lives in Germany with her husband and three children, where she is still learning, unlearning, and writing the next chapter of her story.

Opened

Vulnerable, provocative, and laugh-out-loud honest, OPENED is more than a story about non-monogamy—it’s about what happens when a woman stops asking for permission to want more.

Courtney Boyer was a therapist and relationship coach who spent years teaching others how to communicate, connect, and love. But behind closed doors, her own marriage was suffocating. After years of rejection, loneliness, and shrinking herself to fit the mold of “perfect wife and mother,” she makes a bold, terrifying proposal at her seventeenth wedding anniversary: What if we opened the marriage?

What begins as a desperate bid to save her relationship becomes a raw, unflinching journey of self-discovery. From deconstructing purity culture to navigating desire, body image, and patriarchy, Courtney’s memoir peels back every layer of conditioning to reveal the woman she was always meant to be.

This isn’t a guidebook. It’s an intimate reckoning with marriage, motherhood, shame, and the price of finally choosing yourself. Courtney’s journey is messy, sexy, and most of all, real. And it just might make you question everything you’ve been taught about what women are allowed to want.

If you’ve ever wondered what it costs to silence your own needs—or what it takes to finally claim them—this book will meet you there. Honest, sensual, and deeply human, this memoir is a rallying cry for anyone who’s ever wondered: Is this all there is?

Not Tonight Honey

When it comes to your sex life, do you ever ask yourself, “What’s wrong with me? Am I broken?”

You’re not alone. So many women have felt that way. But not for the reasons you think. This book explores why women have actually struggled sexually, helping you to realize where these feelings of brokenness originated. Having this awareness will open you to the possibilities of creating a sex life that works for you.

Does the idea of having a sex life that works for you seem unattainable? When you’ve spent years battling your body image, dismissing sexual advances from your partner, and even praying that not another person touches you today, you’re primed to resist and resent sex. And then it becomes just another thing on your never-ending to-do list.

The stories that Courtney Boyer shares in Not Tonight, Honey will have you wondering if she wrote this book about you. The insight and wisdom in these pages will encourage you to look at your sex life differently. Courtney Boyer provides readers with practical solutions, including how to establish a pleasure practice, aimed at increasing sexual satisfaction, as well as specific tools that will allow you to have a different conversation about sex and pleasure with yourself, your partner, and even your children.

This book will leave you feeling empowered to work towards change and help you realize that you are allowed to ask for what you want inside and outside of the bedroom.

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